New Year Goals
A New Year is lingering and we are often asked: “what is your New Year’s Resolution?” With January 1 just hours away, it is easy to get caught up in the notion that we need to resolve to being better. And, when the clock strikes 12 with a fresh slate in front of us the world is at our fingertips waiting to be conquered. Resolutions are a great thing, but we have to be mindful of what expectations we put upon ourselves.
New Year’s resolutions can work against us. It is easy to fall into the trap of setting unreasonable goals which can lead to a notion of failure. That we do not meet our own expectations, creating diminishing self-worth. Often these well-intended goals are structured with absolutes and are clouded with negativity. They typically contain a focus on things we need to change about ourselves. These goals are often outcome focused, such as “I want to run a faster marathon” or “I am going to exercise daily”. In doing this we lose sight of the process and emphasis is on all or none. In setting goals we need a reason to push through the tough times, if we are not invested we give up easier.
For a goal to be worthy it must be something you want rather then moving away from something you don’t want. What if we approach the New Year with more global goals as a baseline. Let’s look at this as time to give back to ourselves. Through fitness we create enhanced physical functioning, increased feelings of well-being as well as peak experiences when we achieve personal goals. This leads to an improved quality of life and can contribute to increased levels of self confidence and self esteem. At the same time athletes report decreased levels of anxiety and depression. Giving back adds value to our lives by giving us perspective to approach challenges from a place of confidence, self trust and strength.
The New Year is a time to move past the ‘could have’s’, ‘should haves’ or missed opportunities. It is a time to see ourselves in a new light. We can start with a global approach then look to setting realistic and attainable goals as we move through the process. In doing this we are giving ourselves a better chance to make the changes that we are looking for and ones that will last for the long haul.
All the best to you in the New Year